How to approach strange women?

>>>DATING QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hi Dave,
I'm glad you put together this newsletter because
it's so helpful and awesome! But anyways, I have a
couple questions if you could please help me.

Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff
and I LOVE IT...to say the least. I've noticed
though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with
first encounters and pickups seems to be best fit
for the club/bar scene which is great and
everything, but I'm wondering how you go about
doing pickups in regular places, like a
supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance?
What suggestions do you have for meeting women
here and how would you personally approach women
in these circumstances? I mean, after a
conversation has progressed, I can see how the
cocky and funny will work but I wondering about
the first encounter if you could help please.

Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions
is seeking out other successful guys in your area
and hanging with them and learning from them. My
problem is even though I live in a huge college
campus area with PLENTY of women around and lots
of stuff to do, I can't find any other guys in my
area who I can go out with and kick some a** with.
Most of my family and friends are back home and I
haven't really made any close guy friends that I
can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do
have are just nerds who want to stay home and just
drink only). I mean I can go out by myself but I
like having a wing with me-it's funner that way! I
really agree with you though about the importance
of this and I was wondering if you any suggestions
on how to find other guys who you can go out and
chase tail with? See...why can't you live closer
to me damn it!!

Thanks for everything Dave and I hope you have
more success in the future because you've helped
bring that to a lot of people.

Sincerely, F.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I want to point out that the
ideas in my programs and books are NOT designed
for meeting women in clubs and bars only. Most of
my personal success with women, and most of the
success of my readers, happen in more "normal"
places like coffee shops, bookstores, schools,
parties, and even online.

I think that maybe some people just mentally
apply what they read to situations that they're
familiar with, so it might seem that I'm talking
about "clubs and bars" when I'm really talking
about more than that.

With that said, let's talk about some of the
"how to's".

I chose your particular email because of the
way it was worded. Part of the question is:

"...I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups
in regular places, like a supermarket, store, or
coffee shop for instance? What suggestions do you
have for meeting women here and how would you
personally approach a women in these
circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has
progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny will
work but I wondering about the first encounter if
you could help please..."

It sounds to me like you're assuming here that
you should have a fairly in-depth conversation
when you first meet a woman. I think that most
guys have a fear of approaching women because they
don't really know what to say, or where to take
the conversation. I know that was a big one for me
when I first wanted to learn this stuff.

But here's what I learned: YOU DON'T HAVE TO
HAVE A "CONVERSATION" AT ALL WHEN YOU FIRST MEET A
WOMAN. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET HER DIGITS!

In my ebook, I teach you how to get a woman's
email and phone number in about 3 minutes. I know
that it kind of sounds sensational... like I'm
probably just using that as a marketing trick...
but I'm actually very serious about it.

Now, there's a lot more to success with women
than just getting numbers. But for the sake of
this argument, let's just say that ALL YOU REALLY
NEED TO BE CONCERNED WITH WHEN YOU'RE FIRST
MEETING A WOMAN IS GETTING HER EMAIL AND PHONE
NUMBER.

Yep, that's it.

And you can do that in a few minutes, if you
know what to do and how to do it. I've had MANY
friends of mine go out with me and watch me get 5+
numbers in an evening from women, and only talk to
them for a few minutes each to do it. And I'll
tell you what... it changes their perspectives
forever.

Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for
getting a phone number, email address, or future
date.

I can hear the arguments now:

"But no woman is going to just give out her
number..."

"What makes you think a woman is just going to
hand over her private information to a stranger?"

Well, I'm here to tell you that I, and many
guys I know, have done it SO many times that it's
no longer a question in my mind.

And here's why you might want to do it this
way:

Let's say you're relatively NEW at learning how
to approach women and begin conversations...

The longer you talk to a woman when you first
meet her, the more likely you are to say something
stupid, say something that disqualifies you in her
mind, or get into a conversation that goes down
the wrong road. It's as simple as that.

If you don't waste any time, and just focus on
getting her email and number, you'll be able to
set up a second meeting... where you can focus on
taking things to the next level. And trust me,
it's a lot easier to recover from a mistake or bad
conversation when you're sitting across from her
alone over a cup of tea then when you're looking
at her over the mango section in the supermarket.

Think about it.

So let's land the plane...

The question is, "What do you do to get her to
give up the info so quickly?".

Easy.

1) Know exactly how you want the conversation to
go.

2) Know HOW to ask.

3) Know WHEN to ask.

4) Have pen and paper on you.

Also, if you're PARTICULARLY interested in
learning how to approach women and start
conversations, then you should get yourself a copy
of my program... it's called "Approaching
Women"... duh! Go check out the free preview video
clips of the program and get all the details about
it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/ApproachingWomen/

I recommend that you take a few minutes every
day to imagine having conversations with new
women. It might go something like this:

"Hi there, you're cuter than the average woman
that I see in the produce section... are you
friendly?"

Her: "Ha ha... well, sometimes."

"So, are you shopping for a special occasion,
or is this just a routine produce visit?"

Her: "No, just here for some fruit."

"Nice. Are you from the area?"

Her: "Yeah."

"Are you from here originally?"

Her: "Born and raised."

"Well, it was nice meeting you... and enjoy
your mango..."

Her: "Thanks."

"Hey... do you have email?"

Her: "Yeah, I do."

Check this out... treat the "Yeah" as an
agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out
of your pocket (I prefer the Space Pen) and hand
it to her to write down her email. As she's
writing say, "and write your number there too...
and your name, which I didn't get..."

The key is that you have to act LIKE THIS IS
THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE WORLD.

...OK, see how easy that was? Is that
realistic? I think so. I've personally gotten
HUNDREDS of emails and phone numbers (from women
I've just met) with dialogues like that.

I think a key is to MENTALLY REHEARSE how you
will handle yourself so you know exactly what to
do when the time comes. It all has to flow and
seem natural.

OK, to address the second part of your
question... how to meet other guys who know what
they're doing...

I think it's a good idea to go out once in
awhile to the local hotspots and WATCH what's
going on. Specifically, I think it's a great idea
to look for beautiful women that are with guys,
and watch how the GUY is behaving. Also, it's
interesting to watch guys picking women up to see
what they're doing. You'll learn a few really
important things first-hand when you do this:

1) You'll see the body language of guys that are
able to attract and keep women.

2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone
of guys that are approaching women, and see how
the women respond.

3) Invariably, you'll see some guys are really
good with women, and you can make friends with
them. It's easy... just say, "Hey, you are the mac
with the babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you
to tell me a few things." A beer is a cheap price
to pay for wisdom.

Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that
getting a number or a date is A SMALL PIECE of the
puzzle.

If you REALLY want to master all of the
different aspects of success with women and
dating, then you need to get yourself a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques program.

Everything I teach in my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program is very specifically
designed to teach you the ATTITUDE and BODY
LANGUAGE and all the other little things that
cause women to feel ATTRACTION inside... for
reasons that they don't even understand.

This program will teach you everything from how
to overcome fear and shyness to how to approach
women in different situations... all the way to
how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly
and without "rejection".

Two more important points:

1) I'll send it to you at zero risk... meaning
that you don't have to pay anything at all until
you have gotten it, tried it out, experienced
success, and convinced yourself that it's worth
many times the investment.

2) I'll send it to you in a plain box, with no
identifying marks that indicate what's inside.

Go get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/

And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that right now. You can download it
right now and be reading it within a few minutes.
It's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David D.

How Women "Test" Men - How To Pass

Have you ever called a woman on the phone to
set up a date and she says: "Friday night? Sure.
Call me on Friday and we can talk about it..."?

Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you're
"a player?"

Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?

Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?

Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn't get her way?

Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don't you give me your number
and I'll call YOU?"

Well guess what... you were being TESTED.

All of these are examples of common things
women do to "test" men.

On some level, the woman you were dealing with
was testing to see how much control she had in the
relationship... and how STRONG you were.

The paradox of "testing" is that if you COMPLY
with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually
FAIL the test.

Hey, I never said that women made sense... lol.

I was reading a great book recently called "The
Way Of The Superior Man", and inside the author
points out that a woman will often ask a man for
something DIRECTLY... but if he DOES what she
asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.

Ever been there?

So what's with this testing stuff, anyway?

Well, the answer is fascinating.

And before I tell you about why women TEST you,
I want to mention that there's a LOT more going on
"behind the scenes" when it comes to female
psychology and behavior. I believe that if you can
learn how to understand this "mating psychology,"
then you can learn to attract women MUCH faster...

If you want to get some of my very best ideas
on this topic, just follow this link, and download
my online eBook "Double Your Dating"... it's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook/

Back to the answer...

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY
figure out what they're dealing with, and they
can't expect a man to just be straight up and
honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a
big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,
we often can't BACK IT UP.

Also, beautiful women have a lot of options.
They have their pick of men. And beautiful women
prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although
this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER
and PERSONAL IDENTITY.

Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you... if you were an attractive
woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,
how would YOU go about figuring out which one or
ones were the "real deal" and which were merely
FAKING strength and confidence?

Of course... you'd have to TEST them.

But you couldn't test by saying, "OK, I'm going
to give you a test now, so get ready."

No no NO!

You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that
would allow you to see a man's true strengths and
weaknesses. And in fact, you'd want to use tests
that ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU
WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT
HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out
to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and
easily.

This would give you the power...

Of course.

And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually
become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the
tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way
into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating
with men.

Well, guess what?

That's what is going on with beautiful women.

Many of the tests that they use with men are
actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us
automatically!

And if you fail one of these tests, there's a
good chance that you won't get another chance.

In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have
the time to spend getting to know people over a
few months or years to figure out whether or not
they're the kind of person that would make a good
friend or mate.

We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts.

Testing is a shortcut for women.

It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you
have BALLS, or if you're just another one of the
bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her
attention.

I hope you feel what I'm saying.

So, the next time you're standing in front of a
beautiful woman who you've just asked for her
number and she says, "Why don't you just give me
yours and I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out
loud, and saying:

"Oh, come on. Don't give me that old line. Write
your number down and I'll only call you 25 times a
day until you wind up having to change it because
I have nothing better to do with my time than call
someone who doesn't want to hear from me."

Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and
look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.

Now, obviously there's a lot more to this issue
of TESTING. There's a lot more going on than meets
the eye.

There are all kinds of subtle cues and body
language that women read to decide just what kind
of man you are... and these cues also trigger
ATTRACTION (or the opposite).

I've spent a lot of time researching this
topic, and figuring out exactly what makes women
feel that powerful emotion called ATTRACTION, and
what repels them instantly.

If you'd like to get a POWERFUL education on
the topic of women and dating, then I recommend
that you check out my "Advanced Dating Techniques"
program.

In it, I spend several HOURS going into great
detail and teaching the exact, step-by-step
process of communicating with women in a way that
triggers their SEXUAL ATTRACTION mechanism. I also
teach you exactly what to do when you're being
tested by women... to turn her tests into even
MORE ATTRACTION for you.

You'll also learn HUNDREDS of specific
techniques for approaching women, getting emails
and numbers, kissing, "getting physical," dating,
and everything else that has to do with success
with women. You can go listen to samples and check
it out here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries/

If you like this "dating psychology" stuff,
then I also recommend that you get yourself a copy
of my "Sexual Communication" program. It's a
complete course in speaking this other "language"
that I constantly refer to.

If you want to master the art of creating
"chemistry" and "sexual tension," then this is the
training you need.

Go here to watch some cool video clips of the
program...

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/SexualCommunication/

Thanks for tuning in, and I'll talk to you
again in a few days.

Your Friend,
David D.

P.S. Make sure you check out my online "catalog"
of all my different programs... where you can
watch video clips of all of them... it's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/Catalog/

Do you face loss of oral control?

Ever notice how incredibly hard it is to talk to
a woman that you think is "out of your league"...
let alone try to get a date with her?

You probably get tongue-tied. Maybe you come off
sounding like a "wuss" or "dork". Maybe you try
to make a move at the wrong time - or worse, you
never make your move at all.

If all this sounds too familiar... Did you know
there's a "magic secret" that can virtually
GUARANTEE you'll always stay cool (and know
exactly what to say and do) when you approach a
super-hot woman, no matter how "perfect" or
"unattainable" she seems?

Learn the "MAGIC SECRET" here:

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After talking to so many men for so many
years, I finally had to accept the sad truth...

Most men will NEVER get the kind of
high-quality women that they dream about.

Know why?

Well, here's the surprising reality: it's NOT
for the reasons you probably think.

The fact is, the most mind-blowing women out
there - the women I like to call "Total 10's"
- are totally different creatures than so-called
"average" women.

Now don't get me wrong... I'm all for getting
as many dates as you can with great "average"
women.

But follow me on this, because what I'm about
to say has HUGE implications for your dating
future...

The thing is, every guy has his own idea of
his "perfect" woman built right into his DNA.

This is the woman who has it all as far as
he's concerned. Smoking-hot looks. A great mind.
She's fun, exciting and adventurous.

And every guy also has a secret wish.

A hope. A DREAM that one day, somehow, just
maybe, he can somehow meet and date *THAT* woman.

Which takes me back to the sad truth:

Most men will NEVER get that woman.

But here's what I want YOU to understand today:

Getting a "Total 10" doesn't have to be a wish or
a dream.

Assuming you're not Quasimodo or that guy from
the Sham-Wow commercial, it's something that you
can EASILY LEARN TO DO.

And the most amazing part is:

It's EASIER THAN YOU THINK.

But your problem is, up until now...

YOU'VE BEEN DOING EVERYTHING WRONG.

How do I know?

Because, like 99.99% of all guys, chances are
that you're not dating a "Total 10" at the
moment, and you never have.

I know, I know... I can hear you saying: "Come
on Dave, get real. Maybe I'm not Quasimodo or the
Sham-Wow guy, but I'm also not George Clooney or
Brad Pitt or that vampire dude from Twilight."

And my answer is this:

Once you learn what REALLY works with women,
you can make it work with ANY WOMAN, no matter
how unattainable she may seem.

In fact, it comes back to what I wrote above,
so let's all read it again together. With feeling
this time...

"The most mind-blowing women out there, the
women I like to call Total 10's, are totally
different creatures than the 'average' woman."

And you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to
understand why.

The fact is, Total 10's have had men tripping
over themselves to impress them since the
beginning of time.

Total 10's been the target of every come-on.
They've been approached by every type of guy.

They've seen men act out in incredibly
embarrassing ways just to get their attention.
They've been showered with gifts and promises.

What I'm getting at is this:

A Total 10 has seen it all when it comes to
men and dating. And through it all, she's learned
one simple truth:

SHE CAN HAVE ANY GUY SHE WANTS, ANY TIME SHE
WANTS.

But here's the big news for YOU: Even though a
Total 10 has no problem finding men...

...she has major problems finding THE RIGHT
MAN.

Why?

Because super-attractive women judge (and
reject) 99.99% of the guys they meet.

In fact, did you know that studies show highly
desirable women do a lightning-fast calculation
the minute they meet a guy? And this calculation
determines (in a matter of moments!) whether he
has the slightest chance with her?

Pretty scary, isn't it?

In just a few seconds, a beautiful woman will
test, grade, and pass judgment on you.

But the REALLY scary part is this:

A "Total 10" will not only test and judge you
a HUNDRED TIMES FASTER than an "average" women
will... she will NEVER, EVER give you a second
shot.

Why not?

Simple. She doesn't have to.

With all the options and opportunities that an
in-demand "Total 10" woman has, she tests and
rejects guys faster than they can get their
tongues untied.

But if those "rejects" only knew...

ONE POWERFUL, ALMOST "MAGICAL" SECRET COULD
MAKE SURE THEY PASSED A "TOTAL 10'S" TESTS EVERY
TIME.

Wondering what that magic secret is?

You and a ten million other guys...

But don't worry. I won't leave you hanging.

The magic secret is this:

99.9% of men crash and burn with a Total 10
because they totally MISS THE BOAT when it comes
to understanding what's *really* important to
her.

Let me prove it by asking a simple question:

What do you think is the first thing a "Total 10"
looks for in a man?

If you're like 99.99% of guys, you probably
answered in one of three ways...

LOOKS.

POWER.

MONEY.

But guess what... you just proved my point.
Just like all the guys who will NEVER get a Total
10...

YOU'RE TOTALLY WRONG.

Here's the truth...

"TOTAL 10" WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING
COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THAN MOST GUYS THINK.

They're looking for a man who can understand
and knows how to deal with their EMOTIONS.

That's right... super-attractive women don't
blow guys off because they don't look like Brad
Pitt or have the cash of Diddy or Donald Trump.

They INSTANTLY DISQUALIFY most guys because
they come off sounding CLUELESS.

In fact, I've had Total 10's tell me that most
guys act like "emotional kindergartners" around
them.

Ouch.

But here's the thing...

That's actually GREAT NEWS for YOU.

It's a HUGE opportunity.

It's the reason it's EASIER THAN YOU EVER
IMAGINED to get dates with the kind of women you
always dreamed of.

It's the reason the highest quality women on
the planet are within your reach (even if you
never knew it).

It's the reason learning just a few simple
secrets can change everything when it comes to
getting the women you really want.

And to do it, here's all you need to know...

When it comes to getting a "Total 10," you
need to connect with her on the level that really
matters to her most -

- the EMOTIONAL level.

The fact that most guys act like "emotional
kindergartners" is a gigantic hole in the defense
for YOU.

If you can become the one guy who DOESN'T act
like one, you'll look like you have "MAGIC
POWERS."

Let me explain it like this:

There's an old saying that applies to almost
everything I teach about succeeding with women.
It goes:

"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is
king."

It means, if you can CHANGE YOURSELF to become
better than most other guys (again, we're not
talking money and looks here), you'll have the
advantage you need to get ANY WOMAN YOU WANT.

No matter how attractive she is.

Period.

Here's a prime example of what I'm talking
about:

There are a lot of situations where men blow
their chances with a beautiful woman, and one the
worst is when she's upset.

When a woman is upset, it's actually an
AMAZING opportunity.

Now listen up... I don't mean you should take
advantage of a woman while she's vulnerable or
feeling pain. Stuff like that is just low and
sleazy, and I do not support it.

What I'm really saying is this:

When you see that a woman's upset about
something that's not too major or life-
threatening, it's actually an opportunity to HELP
HER - while passing almost ALL of her tests at
the same time.

But what do MOST guys do when they see that a
woman's upset?

Usually they run away like scared rabbits.

But (assuming they have the confidence to
stick around in the first place) what is it they
usually do next?

They immediately say something like: "Are you
okay?" or "Why are you crying?" or worst of all,
"Don't cry."

Don't say those things.

They're LAME.

There's no better way to instantly identify
yourself as an undateable WUSS than by saying
things like that.

So what SHOULD you do when you see that a
woman's upset?

Well, it's really about a whole lot more than
that.

It's about CHANGING YOURSELF to become the
kind of man who KNOWS INSTINCTIVELY how to
communicate to a woman - the kind of man who can
show her that the world's not ending, and that
everything's definitely going to be okay.

Specifically, it's about learning what it
takes to show strength, empathy and compassion to
her instead of rabbit-like fear and confusion.

So how do you have to change to start doing it?

It can be as simple as learning to maintain
strong eye contact and a calm expression. Or
using a commanding tone of voice that shows peace
and inner strength instead of insecurity.

But most of all, it's about learning what to
say instead of those lame cliches.

For example, when a woman's upset, she might
say something like, "I'm so embarrassed" or "I
shouldn't be acting like this".

What do you do in response?

Hopefully not something Wussy.

What you MUST do is calmly and confidently
communicate to her that:

1) you understand how she's feeling
2) you can deal with her emotions
3) she's "safe" with you because you're calm and
in control

Become the kind of man who can communicate
THAT to a woman, and guess what:

Like MAGIC, she'll know YOU bring something to
the table that 99.99% of other guys DON'T.

She'll sense she's finally in the vicinity of
a rock-solid MAN instead of yet another
"emotional kindergartner".

It's a concept I call "holding space," and
mastering it goes a long way toward making you
"magically" come across as "Mr. Right" to any
woman you choose.

Want to learn more about what it takes to
master these "Magic Powers" and finally start
getting the women of your dreams?

Of course you do - and I want to help you. But
like they say, you have to walk before you can
run...

That means getting a handle on the basics of
male/female ATTRACTION first.

If you haven't read my eBook yet, it's really
the best place to learn those fundamentals
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Once you understand the basics, you'll be in
an EXTREMELY POWERFUL POSITION to continue on to
becoming the kind of "Mr. Right" that every
"Total 10" is looking for.

When you're ready to become the kind of man
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3) Enjoy the love life you always dreamed of,
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once, or building a great relationship with that
ONE PERFECT GIRL.

Bottom line:

If you're interested in getting dates with
"average" women, there's nothing wrong with that.
I say go for it.

But if you're looking to make your dreams come
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And remember: this program is 100% GUARANTEED
to make sure that no woman is ever "out of your
league" again. So when you finally have that
"Total 10" of your dreams on your arm, just do me
just one favor...

...don't blame me if she never wants to leave.

Meantime, let me know how it goes. Nothing
makes my day like another success story.

Your friend,
David D.
PS - The #1 PROBLEM men have with approaching a
super-hot woman is what I call "loss of oral
control." They start tripping over their words.
Getting tongue-tied. Hemming and hawing. It's
awful, it's embarrassing, and worst of all, it's
an instant DEAL KILLER.

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4 Tips For Keeping A Woman's Attention

***QUESTION***

Greetings,

I'm considering investing in your program, but I
have a question for you before I do. Essentially,
I'm no longer looking to hook up with women left
and right. In fact, I think I've met "the one,"
but I'm having trouble making her realize this.
I've been pursuing her for about five months
(during part of which time she was away at school,
but we kept in regular contact, at first through
e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get the
sense that she's very guarded about relationships.
She's *very* goal oriented (which is one of the
many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore
very busy, and - I suspect - she's been burned in
the past, relationship wise. At any rate, on a
couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things
were moving forward, and then she backpedaled;
perhaps she "got spooked," and took a big step
back to protect herself. Most recently, we were
out for the first time since she finished school,
and - insofar as I was able to determine, I was
getting the green light all night: at a movie, I
slipped my arm around her and she leaned in,
resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at
a club for a band, and when we were ready to
leave, she reached across the table and held my
hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it
was pretty chilly, and when she complained about
the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. She
responded by stepping into it: she pressed her
face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full
body to body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to
shoulder and everything in between. When we got
back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she
shied away such that it would have been
*extremely* awkward for me to actually do so.

At any rate, we've gotten together since (in fact,
I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow
maneuvered it around such that I was *her* guest,
and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. As I
said above, I think she got a little spooked. She
specifically said that she thought the
relationship could've evolved into something
romantic, but that it hasn't, and she wasn't sure
why. At this moment, she says she doesn't believe
it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I
still believe she's the one, and I've told her
that I'm still going to pursue this, and she's
keen on still spending time together (for her, for
now, as close friends).

My question is this: do you believe your program
can aid me in turning her around on this? If so,
why?

Thanks,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, sit down for this.

Hold on to something tight, because I'm going
to yell at you for your own damn good...

YOU ARE TOTALLY MISSING WHAT'S GOING ON!

THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, AND YOU'RE
SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING LIKE A NEEDY WUSS
BAG!

If you were closer, I'd slap you myself.

DUH!

Whew. Let me calm myself. As you know, I don't
usually get so worked up. That makes three
exclamation marks in one email, and I haven't even
started lambasting you proper yet. (What is
lambasting, anyway? And is that how you spell it?
It's such a great word. I really should look and
find out.)

OK, I'm calm.

NOW, let's have a little talk here...

The reason why this kind of situation bothers
me is at least twofold:

1) Because I've been in it myself about a
bazillion and a half times, and it sucks to be
screwing something up and not even realize that
you're doing it.

2) I can tell from your email that you actually
like this girl A LOT, and that she's probably a
fantastic woman... and I hate to see you working
so hard against yourself... and screwing this up
when it's right there in front of you for the
taking.

Before I tell you all the reasons why you most
DEFINITELY should invest in my Advanced Dating
Techniques program, let me give you a few pointers
that might help you STOP screwing this up in the
meantime.

OK, back to the basics.

Let's take this from the top...

At the very beginning of your email, you said
something that basically telegraphed EXACTLY what
was going on here...

You said "...I think I've met "the one," but
I'm having trouble making her realize this. I've
been pursuing her for about five months..."

You're having trouble making her REALIZE this?

You've been PURSUING her?

Do you assume that at some point within the
NEXT five months that she's going to wake up one
day and feel a powerful ATTRACTION for you because
you like to chase her around and tell her how you
feel about her?

Normally I'd make fun of you here, and tell you
that you don't get it... blah blah blah.

But for some reason I feel like I just have to
lay things out for you directly.

Look, man... the reason why she's telling you
that she "doesn't know why it hasn't evolved into
something romantic" is that she doesn't FEEL IT.

She doesn't FEEL IT.

Get it?

SHE DOESN'T FEEL IT!

She doesn't feel ATTRACTION for you.

And you can't CONVINCE her to feel it by
chasing her around and telling her how you "feel"
about her.

Attraction, as I always say, ISN'T A CHOICE.

You need to go and get yourself an IN-DEPTH
education on the topic of creating ATTRACTION.
Go read my new online eBook "Attraction Isn't A
Choice".

This book will take you "behind the scenes" and
show you how to communicate with women in a way
that TRIGGERS the attraction... instead of trying
to be a "nice guy" and CONVINCE her to feel it for
you.

You can download it right now, and be reading
it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AttractionBook

Now, you're acting like most guys who think things
like: "If she only knew how I felt about her,
she'd feel the same way" and "If I keep pursuing
her, she'll eventually see how much I love her"
etc.

Well guess what?

AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.

Right now you are playing what is referred to
as a "losing game".

Think of it this way. If you stop on the way
home from work every day and buy a lottery ticket,
you'll win once in awhile. Hell, you might even be
lucky one day and win big.

But your chances SUCK.

You're probably going to lose a LOT more than
you win over time.

Like I said, you COULD win big. There is a
chance. But you probably won't. And I mean
probably with a BIG P.

I refer to the way that you're acting as "Being
a Wussy" (that's the technical term... made it up
myself).

When you act like a Wussy, you do things like:

-Pursue

-Cling

-Share "feelings"

-Act submissive

-Seek approval

-Pine away

This is WUSSY behavior.

It's distinctly FEMININE in nature.

When guys act like this, they're getting in
touch with their inner little girl (and she needs
a spanking in the worst way).

And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part?

When you act like this around a woman (and
ESPECIALLY a "goal oriented" woman who's probably
smart and powerful like yours) they CANNOT feel
the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you.

Women aren't attracted to Wussies.

This is a UNIVERSAL truth.

And by the way that you describe your
relationship with this woman, SHE REALLY WANTS TO
BE ATTRACTED TO YOU!

She's trying, man.

And she probably KNOWS that you'd be a great
guy to be in a relationship with... but she just
doesn't FEEL IT... so she holds back. I'm sure she
WISHES that she could be attracted to you. I'll
bet you money.

Look, you need to STOP acting like a nice
friend guy Wuss IMMEDIATELY if you want this to
turn into something.

You're probably beyond help with this
particular woman, but I'm going to give you a few
ideas JUST IN CASE...

1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do),
and stop spending so much time with her.

2) Start dating other women IMMEDIATELY, and
make sure she knows about it.

3) Stop being all lovey with her, and don't
tell her how you "feel about her" anymore. Stop it.

4) Accept that you will probably be friends
with her forever, and start acting that way.

5) Don't try to kiss her or be physical with
her at ALL anymore until you understand what you're
doing.

Remember, what you're doing ISN'T WORKING.

If you do these things that I've described, you
will probably have the best chance of turning this
around.

NOW, the next thing you need to do is what you
asked me about in your email... GET MY ADVANCED
DATING TECHNIQUES PROGRAM.

You need a new perspective on this entire
situation. And you need a new perspective on
women.

You're obviously a smart guy, and once you
begin to understand how ATTRACTION works for
women, you'll change how you behave COMPLETELY.

Total transformation.

And the best part is that you won't be changing
how you act and just "faking it". You'll change
how you act because you GET IT.

It's really fantastic to HELP a woman feel that
magical ATTRACTION for you that she REALLY WANTS
TO FEEL.

And it's also amazing to know exactly how to
get physical with a woman without having to deal
with the awkward "shy away from the kiss"
situation that you described in your email.

I guarantee that when you listen to and/or
watch my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program,
it will FOREVER CHANGE how you think about and
act around women. Period, end of story.

Here, let me give you the hard- sell...

I had to learn all of this stuff the hard way.
I've been right where you are many, many, MANY
times in my life. It sucks. I know it does.

The reason why my program will be good for you
is because it was good FOR ME FIRST. I teach what
I do.

And because I also believe that you should only
have to pay for something that you find value in,
I'll send it to you:

-At my risk.

-In a plain package so your mom doesn't know
what's inside.

-Free for you to try for a MONTH.

I'm betting that once you have it in your hot
little hands that I couldn't pry it away from you
with a crowbar.

I'm serious.

OK, enough of me trying to convince you of
something you already know. Go watch the newest
video preview clips and get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries

Now repeat after me: I WILL NEVER ACT LIKE
A WUSSY AGAIN!

If you want to make your dating life a whole
lot better and easier, then stop and think about
your behavior... and resolve right now to stop
acting like a WUSS for the rest of your life.

Being "nice" and "accommodating" and
"understanding" is great for friendships and
social relationships, but it's HORRIBLE for
ATTRACTION.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a
guy that she can push around. She doesn't want a
guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn't
want a little boy that she can train and raise.

An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

This doesn't make LOGICAL sense, I know. But
it's the truth. These submissive qualities will
only work in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES
DRESSING UP IN LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN... AND
CHARGING $400.00 AN HOUR!

And my guess is that this isn't the kind of
woman that you're looking for.

If you want to stop ACTING like a WUSSY you
need to eliminate your INNER WUSS for good and
build a rock-solid confidence level that is
NATURALLY attractive to women. So you also
need to take a look at my "Deep Inner Game" program.

This program will eliminate inner challenges
like insecurity, fear and anxiety that are holding
you back from TRUE success with women. And as long
as you have those kinds of fears you're gonna
continue acting like a needy wussbag.

So go take a look at some of the video clips
from this program here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/DeepInnerGame

Now I've explained some of the important
qualities that you need to cultivate in yourself
if you want to attract women... and keep them
attracted. Now get out there and start working
on it.

...and if you're reading this right now and you
haven't yet downloaded your copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating", I have something to
tell you...

My eBook is the foundation for EVERYTHING that
I teach in these newsletters, my Advanced Dating
Techniques, and other programs.

And you need to read my Double Your Dating
ebook, because it contains a lot of valuable
material that sets the stage for everything else.
It's here, so go download it now:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/eBook

Like I said, if you're just starting out, my
ebooks and programs will show you things that
you've never seen or heard before. You'll
get a completely new perspective on what it
takes to be successful with women and dating.

If you're already successful, my programs
will make you BETTER. There are a lot of very
advanced concepts included... and you'll get
to hear me interview guys who are AMAZING
with women in my Advanced Series. In other
words, no matter where you are with women,
you'll improve.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Avoid The 10 Most Dangerous Dating Mistakes Men Make

Hey,

 "The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women" And What To Do About It..."

   Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With
Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of
These Deadly Common Mistakes...

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy

   Have you ever noticed that the really
attractive women never seem to be attracted to
"nice" guys?

   Of course you have.

   Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive
female friends that always seemed to date
"jerks"... but for some reason they were never
romantically interested in YOU.

   What's going on here?

   It's actually very simple...

   Women don't base their choices of men on how
"nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do
because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION
for them.

   And guess what?

   Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that
powerful ATTRACTION.

   And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

   I realize that this doesn't make a lot of
logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET
OVER IT.

   Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on
it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that
you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You

   What do most guys do when they meet a woman
that they REALLY like... but she's just not
interested?

   Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel
differently.

   Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER
CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!

   Never, ever, EVER.

   You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".

   Think about it.

   If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?

   But we all do it.

   When a woman just isn't interested, we beg,
plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

   Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or
Permission

   In our desire to please women (which we
mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys
are always doing things to get a woman's
"approval" or "permission".

   Another HORRIBLE idea.

   Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men
who kiss up to them... EVER.

   Don't get me wrong here.

   You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to
like you.

   But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission
for things", think again.

   You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their
approval.

   Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if
Wussy guys who chase her around and want her
approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With
Food And Gifts

   How many times have you taken a woman out to a
nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had
her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her
even HALF as well as you did?

   If you're like me, then you've had it happen a
LOT.

   Well guess what?

   It's only NATURAL when this happens...

   That's right, I said NATURAL.

   When you do these things, you send a clear
message:

   "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so
I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".

   Your good intentions usually come across to
women as over-compensation for insecurity, and
weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I
said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In
The Relationship With Her

   Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most
men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too
early on.

   Attractive women are rare.

   And they get a LOT of attention from men.

   Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another
ALL THE TIME by men.

   An attractive woman is often approached several
times a DAY by men who are interested. This
translate into dozens of times per week, and often
HUNDREDS of times per month.

   And guess what?

   Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.

   That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

   They know what to expect.

   And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just
about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two
dates.

   This signals to the woman that you're just like
all the other guys who fall for her too fast...
and can't control themselves.

   Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

   There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For
Women

   Women are VERY different from men when it comes
to ATTRACTION.

   You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

   When a man sees a beautiful woman
he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

   But does the same apply for women?

   Do women feel sexual attraction to men based
mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

   Well, after studying this topic for over five
full years now, I can tell you that women usually
have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
things OTHER than looks.

   Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
average and unattractive men with beautiful women
than the other way around?

   Think about it.

   Women are more attracted to certain qualities
in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man
makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

   If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you
that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young
woman.

   But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how
to do this.

   And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

   One of the most common mistakes that guys make
is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only
interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a
certain age.

   And sure, there are some women who are only
interested in these things.

   But MOST women are far more interested in a
man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

   There are personality traits that attract women
like a magnet...

   And if you learn what they are and how to use
them, YOU can be one of these guys.

   YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

   Let me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

   Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look
to a woman for approval or permission.

   Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys
use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

   Said differently, guys try to get women to like
them by doing whatever the woman wants.

   Another bad idea...

   Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

   Now I'm going to blow your mind...

   A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

   Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

   I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and
you want to kiss her, she knows it.

   And if you don't know exactly what to do and
exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there
looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
help!

   And this goes for ALL aspects of women and
dating...

   Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking
her out, kissing her, getting physical...
everything.

   If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you will probably screw it up... and LOSE
EVERYTHING.

   And you KNOW it.

   It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
how to go from one step to the next with a
woman... from the first meeting, all the way to
the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

   This is the biggest mistake of all.

   This is the mistake that keeps most men from
EVER having the kind of success with women that
they truly want.

   I know, guys don't like to make themselves look
weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

   Hey, I've been there myself.

   Let me tell you a little about me and how I
figured out how to be successful with women...

   About five years ago I became fed up with the
fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and
get dates with women that I was attracted to.

   It frustrated the hell out of me.

   One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a
woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get
up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that
night... right on the spot I made the decision to
do whatever it took to learn how to be successful
with women and dating.

   Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all
kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all
out.

   I can now approach just about any woman and get
her number almost instantly. I've dated models,
I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal,
regular girls as well.

   It has been a very rewarding experience. I no
longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I
don't know how to meet women... and I might wind
up alone.

   I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and
meet attractive women.

   I've written a book on the topic, and I've done
seminars on both coasts of the United States...
and taught tens of thousands of men all around the
world.

   In addition to this email newsletter, I also
have a killer downloadable eBook that you can
download and be reading in literally MINUTES
from right now.

   It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of
specific strategies for overcoming fear,
approaching women, getting phone numbers and email
address from women quickly, great inexpensive or
even free date ideas, and how to take things to a
"physical" level smoothly and easily.

   Download Your Copy Of The Online eBook Here

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   I've also put together what is arguably the
most complete educational product on planet Earth
for DRAMATICALLY increasing your success with
women.

   This new digitally recorded audio and video
series contains over TWELVE full hours of me
teaching all of the ideas, concepts, techniques,
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learn.

   Now you can get all the benefits of hearing me
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own home.

   In this day and age of "instant gratification",
I realize that this might just sound like another
late-night infomercial filled with a lot of
unsubstantiated claims and promises.

   Well, that's not the case.

   I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy
making this program. I wanted to design and create
a program that ANY guy could easily understand and
start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more
women... without having to lie, do dishonest
things, or be "manipulative".

   I now believe that ANY man can be more
successful with women and dating, and I get emails
every day with success stories from guys who are
using this program to meet and date wonderful
women.

   I know, I know... an audio and video program
that can teach a regular guy how to be more
successful in the dating world? No way.

   Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY
increase your success with women... I absolutely
guarantee it 100%.

   If you'd like to take your success with women
and dating to the next level, and have the kind of
success that you've always wanted, then go check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.

   To get all the details, and check out some
great free audio and video samples of the program,
just go here:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/AdvancedSeries

   And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days...

      Your Friend,

      David D.

Are You AFRAID Of Women? Read This...

   What prevents men from being successful with
women?

    Well, the list goes on and on... but one of the
elements that TOPS the list is FEAR.

    There are many different situations that make
men feel fear, but I'd like to talk about some of
the most common ones... and what to do about them.

    First of all, I'd like you to be honest for a
moment about this topic.

    Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women
and dating?

    Have you ever seen a woman that you'd really
like to meet, but you started to feel fear and
didn't do anything about it?

    Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to
kiss a woman... but you felt too afraid because
you didn't want to make a mistake and screw up
your chances?

    Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number,
but you were too afraid to call back because you
didn't know how to start off the conversation or
ask her out?

    Cummon, seriously...

    Have you ever been sitting there with the phone
in your hand, dialing a woman's number, but you
had to hang up because you were just too nervous
to even talk to her...?

    Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted
to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought
that you just decided it would be better to forget
the whole idea and hope for the best...?

    Me too. Many times, in fact.

    By the way, it's not exactly FUN to admit that
you're afraid of things.

    I'm sure you know that most guys would rather
admit in public that they were unsure about their
sexual orientation than that they were afraid of
women.

    Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you
have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes
matters worse...

    If you don't admit that you have the problem,
then it's hard to get help and answers to it.

    Well, the good news is that you're not alone.

    Almost every guy I've known (including myself)
has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

    So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your
need to deny that you're afraid. Just admit that
you're afraid, and come to grips with the fact
that you're human...

    STEP 2 is to admit that you'd like to get this
particular area of your life handled.

    STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    Once you realize that it's not that big of a
deal, then the improvement can start. On the other
hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you'll
probably just look for new tricks and techniques
to use on women... which, of course, won't lead to
any REAL improvement.

    By the way, if you've got more than the
"average" amount of fear around meeting women, you
might want to take a minute and look at THIS
before you read on:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/DeepInnerGame

    I personally think that one of the biggest
causes of fear when it comes to situations with
women is:

    PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN
THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR
SITUATION.

    To put it in different words, most guys don't
take action because they're afraid that they'll
screw up, or that the woman or others around will
judge them.

    The REAL problem though is that this whole
process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens
INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that
they'd like to meet. Before they even have a
chance to think about the situation rationally,
they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.

    I'm sure you know EXACTLY what I'm talking
about.

    As humans, we have these incredible minds and
bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways
that aren't exactly useful for the situations that
we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our
cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways
of thinking that just aren't useful at all for
what we'd like to accomplish.

    Here's something that I realized a few years
ago when I was learning for myself how to be
successful with women...

    I thought about this idea that I was having
this instant, automatic fear in different
situations with women, and that what I was really
thinking was "I don't want to screw this up" and
"I don't want her to think that I'm a dork"...

    And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

    IT DOESN'T MATTER.

    It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn't
matter what she thinks of me.

    I realized that the fears I was experiencing
were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

    So, I started to remind myself as often as
possible that the fear wasn't happening because
there was any kind of danger... and that my
objective in a particular situation wasn't to have
it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

    Think about the difference between doing
something because it's important vs. doing
something in order to LEARN.

    So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I
wanted to meet... instead of thinking, "OK, I have
to say something charming and original so she'll
like me... and if I screw up I'm going to be
embarrassed" - I began to think things like, "I'm
going to learn how to get a woman's phone number
within a few minutes of meeting her... and part of
learning this is going to be trying a lot of
different things that probably aren't going to
work... but in the end, it's all going to even out
because I'm going to have the SKILL that I want."

    See the difference?

    Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude
made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to
do and try things that I never would have tried in
the past for fear of screwing up...

    All because I had the attitude of "I'm going to
learn something from this and improve my skills...
and it doesn't matter what happens in THIS
PARTICULAR situation", I was able to improve very
rapidly.

    And the more I began to apply this idea, the
more success I had in ALL areas with women... from
the first meeting, to getting them to go out with
me, to taking things to a physical level.

    So do this:

    Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with
a woman.

    I don't care if she's attractive or not.

    But instead of having the objective of getting
a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

    In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go
spend a day starting conversations with women, but
make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers
or dates all day.

    In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you
can't date any of the women that you meet that
day.

    See if you can just learn how to do a few
simple things like say, "Hi" to every woman that
walks by... how to maintain eye contact with women
until THEY look away... and how to end a
conversation "too soon" so she feels a natural
vacuum and tries to keep it going herself...

    That's one good idea for dealing with your
fears.

    If you'd like to read more of my personal
secrets for overcoming fear, including specific
mental exercises and physical drills, then I'd
recommend that you download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's full of all my
very best thinking on this and many other subjects
about success with women.

    Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/eBook

      ...and if you're ready to REALLY get your
"issues" handled with women, then I recommend that
you get your hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.

    You'll get to hear me and several of my
friends, who are AMAZING with women, talk about
how we learned to overcome our issues, deal with
our fears, and meet more women as a result.

    There's nothing like hearing it live, and this
program will blow your mind. Go here for all the
details:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/AdvancedSeries

    I'll talk to you again soon.

         Your Friend,

         David D.

How To Make A Woman Laugh

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave! I used your email close twice now and it
worked like magic both times: once with a
statuesque black woman, the other with a cute
Asian. Yeah!

One was in a bookstore, the other in a cafe: I
chatted for five minutes, started leaving, then
asked for email.

But what do I at a party where I'm likely to stay
for at least an hour? Pretend to leave, get email,
then stay!? What's the strategy here?

C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    Isn't it amazing how easy it is to get an email
address from a woman you've just met? I didn't
believe it myself at first...

    Well, it sounds like you have quite the diverse
taste in women... glad to hear that my techniques
cross all racial and cultural boundaries.

    If you're at a party, the strategy is:

    "Well, it was nice talking to you... I'm going
to get back to my friends... {turn away}... Hey,
do you have email?"

    Then get her email and go back to your friends.
If she starts up a conversation again with you,
you now have all kinds of options.

    Think about it.

    And, if you or she leaves early, you can still
contact her later. Nice.


***QUESTION***

Hi,

I bought your book and its been money well spent
as far as I'm concerned. The email/phone approach
works like magic; I have never, ever gotten a
phone number in a bar before, and now I can! Also
the "are you touching me" line you mention in your
book is a real winner. And all the general advice
about body language, attitude, its all working.

So now I'm wondering if you can provide some
advanced know-how. The sort of girls I like are
the blonde, high-maintenance "Los Angeles" looking
babes, and they seem to be the hardest for me to
succeed with. Any suggestions on what I should be
doing to attract them? What look I need to have,
methods of approach, things to say, whatever...

(To explain where I'm coming from, I'm tall
(6'2"), thin but cut, average looking, run my own
business and make good money. I try to be both
funny and arrogant but am usually more funny than
arrogant. My style is goatee, black turtleneck,
khakis, black loafers.)

Thanks in advance for any extra tips you can
provide!

A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    Lease a Mercedes 500SL, get a big gold chain,
pretend to be a big-time producer, and make
references to your "connections".

    The problem with the type of woman that you're
describing is that WOMEN DON'T ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE
THIS IN REAL LIFE. EVERY ONE OF THESE WOMEN IS
TRYING TO COMPENSATE FOR SOMETHING! And it's
usually something like, oh, self esteem,
insecurity, lack of attention from a father
figure, a neurotic need for approval... you get
the picture.

    If you want a fake woman, then be a fake man.

    Your other option, of course, is to TURN UP THE
MAGIC COCKY + FUNNY FORMULA TO THE MAX. You're
going to have to see her fake beauty and raise her
an arrogant attitude unseen since Ali.

    Try it. If it isn't working, turn it up. You're
probably asking for trouble, but since you
asked...


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Great book!   It certainly makes much more sense to
bypass those "dating rules" that women seem always
play and make your own rules instead.

I do need your opinion here:   I'm successful,
intelligent, cocky/funny (bordering on
a**hole/arrogant at times), not bad looking, and
in good shape. However, I'm Asian/American and
shorter than the average white male. On the
internet, I've had many comments how great I seem
until they learn that I'm Asian-- then I don't
hear from them again.   In person, it's a slightly
different story because I can use funny/cocky,
which gives me better responses.

I know that Asian American males have always had
huge gripes about white women and even women of
their own race who will NOT date them because of
the stereotypical (nerdy, needy, backwards, or
arrogant, bad to women, philanderers... list goes
on) AA males that are always portrayed on TV and
movies.   And also, you just hardly ever see AA
males with white women (especially in the white
suburbia where I happen to live).

Do you have any special advice here?   Any
personality traits we should emphasize?   Have you
seen AA males be successful using these techniques
and what have you observed?

Thanks,

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    I have an Asian friend who's probably about 5'
5" tall, and he's ALWAYS surrounded by young
women. And I mean surrounded. Like 5 or 6 at a
time. There are biases everywhere, in all
cultures... if you buy into them, then they apply
to you. If you don't, then they don't.

    Whose reality do you live in anyway? Yours? Or
hers?


***QUESTION***

Hi, this maybe a dumb question but what does
"cocky" mean and can you provide me some examples.

Thanks,

R.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    The formula is:

    COCKY+FUNNY

    Cocky alone is not attractive. Arrogance repels
people like bad breath. But a FUNNY arrogance...
Ahhh, that's the stuff that miracles are made of.

    The cocky man says, "You are acting like a
little girl, and it's annoying me."

    The cocky+FUNNY man says, "If you keep acting
like a brat I'm going to spank you like a red-
headed-step-child." (The usual response is
"Ooohhh, be careful, I might like that.)

    No, really.

    A cocky+funny man is always on the lookout for
an opportunity to show off his arrogant humor.

    She gives a compliment on the clothing...
Cocky+Funny Man says:

    "I just met you and you're already starting
with the compliments. Look, I'm not going home
with you. I'm not that easy."

    I've just placed a pearl of wisdom before you.
If I were you, I'd pick it up, look at it from
many angles, and improvise variations. This is
magic waiting to happen.


**QUESTION***

"HEY DAVE! I have a teensy weensy little questions
for you, but first I'd like to say that your book
kicks serious butt!! I have had more luck with
women since I got it... Not that I really needed
it or anything, (cough cough) ahem! Anyways, now
to my question.

1)I know how to be cocky, I know how to be funny,
I treat women the special attractive way they
should be treated... but I have no clue whatsoever
as to what signs a woman will give off when she is
feeling attracted, I keep doing silly, stupid
things like um... backing off afterward 'cause I'm
not sure what her reaction meant, which I am
positive is a problem.

So if you could help me here I would be most
obliged

J."

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    The main sign that a woman gives off is VERY
simple to spot:

    SHE KEEPS TALKING TO YOU.

    You can stop clapping. I know it was profound.

    But really, if a woman isn't interested, she
won't keep talking to you. She'll start looking
around, acting bored out of her skull, or moving
around in an uncomfortable manner.

    The first minute or two is often like this
anyway as two people begin a conversation... but
if it continues past about 3-5 minutes, you need
to move on and try to be a little less boring with
the next girl!

    I knew you would find my answer profound... but
if you're still waiting for her to tilt her head,
lick her lips, and twirl her hair then you need to
stop reading books published by guys that have
nothing better to do than spend 25 years watching
people in bars and writing down what they do.

    It's simple:

1) Meet girl

2) Get email and number

3) Invite for tea and stimulating conversation

4) Meet and tease, be cocky & funny

5) If she's not psycho, invite her over

6) Use The Kiss Test

7) Don't screw it up!

    I may have oversimplified a bit here, but I
think you get the idea. Don't worry about what
she's thinking... just do what you know is
ATTRACTIVE, and then lead. Things will work
themselves out if you keep doing the right things.


***SUCCESS STORY/QUESTION***

David,

Been reading your newsletter, and bought your
book. I've read it once and will read it again for
better comprehension.

Success Story:

In the meantime, I've been putting into practice
what you teach.   I wanted   to share this success
story with your readers, as an example of how well
this stuff can work.

At a bar with a bunch of friends for a stag party.
Took the stag-boy around the bar to get his t-
shirt signed by all the women (this is a great way
to meet and talk with every woman in the bar).
Anyway, later I saw a blonde   that I had talked to
earlier.   She was talking with 3 guys.   I went
over and tapped her on the shoulder and said "Hey
can I talk with you a minute?" and walked away
about 10 feet.

She came over, I used your email/phone # material,
and gave her pen and paper to write it down. You
should have seen the looks on the faces of the
three guys who were just talking to her. It was
worth it just for that.

I got 4 numbers that night and have been out with
2 of those women.

Question:

Like many other guys who write you, I've been
trying to develop the cocky-funny attitude.   I've
watched most of the comedians and movies you
suggested in your book. I'm working hard on this
but it's just moving along slowly.

Now that getting emails/numbers isn't a problem,
and even getting dates (although I know I could do
better if I was more cocky-funny) is now more
possible, I now have run into a whole new problem:
how to create tension/tease/act cocky-funny on the
first date so that SHE calls ME for the second
date (hopefully cooking a meal at her place).

Anything you suggest for us guys at this stage of
our learning that isn't already in your book would
be most helpful.

Thanks,

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    You're doin' great... and you'll figure it out
as you go.

    One of the best things you can do is to take
out a pen and paper, and write down the ten most
common situations that you find yourself in, then
write down some cocky, funny lines to use.

    For instance, you might write:

End Of Date

1) Say to her, "Now don't call me three times a
day... I had fun too, but no stalking"

2) Kiss her and say, "Call me"

3) Tell her, "I'm busy tomorrow, but if you tempt
me with a good enough offer, I might make time for
you the next night..."

    Are you feelin' me?

    Just work out the different situations on paper
first, then do them in real life. You're on the
right track.

    If you REALLY want to learn how to master the
art of taking things from one step to the next
with a woman in a SMOOTH way... you should also
check this out:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/SexualCommunication


***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

You've guessed it - the magic formula is working.
I went for 10 years with only 3 women, and in the
last 3 months, since I read the book, I've slept
with 3 more. The C&F theory is 100%. I picked up
one girl at supermarket, got her email, sent her
an email, got a date, left early ("got to go - too
busy, sorry...", waited 10 days, got another date,
asked her if she'd like to see me again,   told her
"I think you should, because I'm almost perfect"
(she laughed), kissed her and you can guess the
rest...This stuff is dynamite. I'm a good looking,
successful 36 year old (separated), but I act an
idiot in front of women - or used to. Now I feel
*totally* in control, and am enjoying playing with
your ideas. Spot on!

D.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    Isn't it amazing what a little attitude
adjustment can do? I appreciate your email because
a lot of guys don't realize that JUST BEING GOOD
LOOKING doesn't do it. In fact, I know more
average looking guys who are successful with women
that "good looking" guys who are. Funny, isn't it?

    Actually, it's COCKY and funny. Ba-Dum-Bum.


***QUESTION***

Dear David,

I met this girl on the internet and we have been
out twice. On the computer and on the phone she's
all sweet and inviting but in person she is
entirely different. On our second date she told me
that she didn't feel "connected" with me.
Meanwhile I have been nothing but a gentleman to
this woman. Help, what did I do wrong.

Sincerely,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    I have two ideas for you:

1) Stay tuned and read every email that you get
from me.

2) http://www.doubleyourdates.com/eBook

    And listen to the little audio clip at the end
of the second page. You need to learn that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. And it isn't logical.

    Again, stay tuned.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I spend a lot of time in the library these days
studying for an exam - Psychology of all things-
but it hasn't helped because oftentimes I see an
attractive girl at the next table or perhaps a
cute girl walks past - never to be seen again. My
problem is that I'm totally at a loss as to what
to say and how to arrange it so we meet in what
seems like a natural and unsuspicious way. I can't
just go up to a study-table and suddenly introduce
myself and I'm certainly not going to follow
anyone around. Any suggestions?

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    Like I say in my book "Double Your Dating"...
women KNOW what you're doing when you approach
them. Heck, even if you're just being nice and
friendly they'll SUSPECT that you're picking up on
them.

    So, get over this "unsuspicious way" idea.

    What... do you want to start talking about math
or anthropology, then slide in under her radar
with your smooth Mac Daddy techniques... and have
her wake up enamored with you?

    Well, now that I put it this way...

    Just sit close and start up a conversation. Ask
them what they're studying. Say anything. Then be
cocky & funny. Say you have to go, that it's been
nice chatting... and "Hey, do you have email?"

    Quit trying to be the "Secret Agent Mac" of the
campus. And besides, women think that men who are
self conscious approaching them are WUSSIES.

    And, in case you didn't know this, WUSSIES
DON'T GET WOMEN ALL HOT AND BOTHERED.

    Revenge Of The Nerds will NEVER happen to you.
***QUESTION***

David,

First of all, I've got to say that your advice is
brilliant!   There's a lot of con-men out there
selling silver bullets for guys women problems,
but you're writing makes you figure out what works
best for you. Since I've started following the
Cocky-Funny approach, I've noticed better results
with women in general.

Recently, I was out with a group of friends for
someone's birthday.   I met this great chick who we
both have mutual friends with.   Well needless to
say we both were attracted to one another and were
dancing in the club later with each other.   One of
my friends was talking to her and then afterwards
she went a bit cold on me.   He told me later that
she said she liked me but had just started going
out with another guy for 2 weeks.

Now I'm not one to try and steal another guys
girl, but I felt that the two of us really
connected and would like to see this girl. I
haven't got her number, but my friend has a good
excuse to ring her and I know I will be seeing her
again in a couple of weeks through friends.   Well
my question David is this. You're tips helped make
her attracted to me, but what can I do if she's
still unsure about what to do with her current
relationship?

I'd really appreciate your advice!

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    Well, if you haven't read my book, then you
need to get it ASAP and learn how to use the
"friendship" approach with women.

    I think that most guys are just too damn
anxious to get their willies wet sometimes.
Instead of trying to convince her to leave some
guy she's been dating for two weeks based on a few
dances, instead say:

    "It was nice meeting you, you seem like you
might make a nice FRIEND. Maybe we can have coffee
sometime."

    Get it?

    I've learned the hard way that it's much better
to get to know a woman as a friend FIRST anyway.
It puts you in the right frame of mind, and you
get to learn a few things about her before you
apply all of your serious advanced smooth-mac
tactics (and very well may just save you from a
neurotic experience of the unwanted kind).

    When you say "friends" first, it says all the
right things. Think about it.


***EMAIL OF THE WEEK***

I have a question about fat womens. if a women sit
in the   house all day worry about things and
trying to destroy my career of making music and
looking for some attention and money should i get
rid of the fat pig or stay with her till things
blow and hit her like a punching bag to settle her
emotions down? she not my girlfriend she just a
sick women who was cool with me since my youth but
she hates everything I'm into. well I'm ready to
treat her like dirt as far the game go she play to
talk trash about my talent and putting her nose in
my business.what should I do punch her like a pimp
or kick the fat bic.. to the curb.(we ain,t got
anything in command)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    I have to warn you beforehand, I'm not a
qualified relationship expert or licensed
practitioner, but I may be able to offer you some
insight.

    It sounds to me like your relationship could
possibly have eroded beyond repair. Again, I'm not
a qualified expert, but this is just my personal
intuition.

    In addition, I realize that on occasion a woman
can behave in a way that is unsettling, but
violence is never an acceptable way to settle a
dispute of this nature.

    In other words I just don't think that if you
"punch her like a pimp" that it's going to solve
anything.

    Good luck with your "...career of making music
and looking for some attention and money..."

*** I know, it just isn't possible that someone
could have sent me this letter... but sometimes
life is just this way. I cut and pasted it exactly
as it was sent to me... with no edits. Unreal.***


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I wrote you last week saying that I really
like this girl and wanted to "push her over the
edge" and get her to see me more. Well, I took
your advice and waited for her to call me.   Well,
she did, and everything that you said would happen
did.   She told me that she is used to guys calling
her all of the time and bugging her and that I am
the first guy she's gone out with that didn't try
to call her and ask her out every day.   Needless
to say she asked ME if she could see ME more. It
worked like a charm and she spent the night last
night (it was worth the wait).   Just wanted to say
thanks for the   help and that you are cool as hell
for helping guys to quit acting like "wusses".
Thanks buddy.

-D

>>>MY COMMENTS:

    What else can I say? NICE!

    I should invent a cream called "WUSS-BE-
GONE"... or maybe "WUSS-AWAY"... you could rub it
on yourself and it would overcome the urge to call
women and beg for their attention. I could sell it
for $100.00 a tube. Hmmmmm... I'll have to see if
I can scare up some venture capital for this one.
I'll keep you posted.

    ...and that about wraps up another one.

    I'm still trying to recover from the comedy
above... I really hate my job.

    If you found this particular discussion
interesting, then you probably need to learn the
DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with
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probably time for you to step up and get yourself
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    This program will teach you everything from how
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    ...and, if you're reading this right now and
you haven't yet downloaded your copy of my online
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tell you...

    My eBook is the foundation for everything that
I teach in these newsletters, and it's the
foundation for my Advanced Dating Techniques
Program. If you haven't read it, go download it
right now:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/eBook

    And again: if you're interested in learning
more about how to use Cocky & Funny to attract
women, then you MUST go check out my Cocky Comedy
CD/DVD Program.   You can watch some good preview
video clips here:

http://www.doubleyourdates.com/CockyComedy

    I'll talk to you again soon.

         Your Friend,

         David D.