>A woman REALLY isn't interested in the words
you're saying. And the words that SHE says to
you really don't matter that much either. If
you want to learn to trigger and grow that
magical feeling called CHEMISTRY or
ATTRACTION, then you need to learn how to use
your body language, gestures, and voice TONE
to do it. Go read this if you want to learn how:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.
WHAT WOMEN "REALLY MEAN"...
I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm
about to share with you will change how you view
women and dating.
I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in
the female mind.
I'm going to give you a perspective that most
men never see or realize.
Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things
the way I'm about to share with you, keeps them
trapped in their own little world of failure.
If you pay careful attention to the things I'm
about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have
more success with women.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL
WORLD...
Have you ever heard a woman say something like:
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
"I want a guy who is strong."
"I want a guy who is sexy."
...?
Of course you have.
Women say this stuff all the time.
One of my favorites is:
"I want a REAL MAN."
I love that one.
In the past, when I'd hear women say, "I want a
REAL MAN", I had NO IDEA what the hell they were
talking about.
It almost didn't make sense.
But keep in mind, even though these things
don't always make sense to us guys, they make
PERFECT sense to women.
Here's the problem...
When a woman says one of these things, she
actually MEANS something that is different from
what a guy would mean if he said the same words.
Let me explain.
If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax
today", he probably means that he's going to stay
home, watch some sports, drink a beer, look at
pictures of women on the internet, and order a
pizza.
If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home
and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch some
sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on
the internet, and order a pizza.
IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right
now and you are a woman who watches sports, drinks
beer, looks at pictures of the women on the
internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact
me immediately at the email address below. And
send pictures.
Back to what I was saying...
Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words
they use often don't mean what they SOUND like
they mean.
So, the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman
SAYS something to you, doesn't mean that it means
what you THINK it means.
Catch my meaning?
THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU
There's a little secret that women never happen
to mention when they're describing what they want
in a man.
Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are
trying to be what women want... and hoping that if
we try hard enough to please women that they'll
like us... this little secret is causing us a LOT
of trouble.
The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things
that they're asking for from a guy who already has
about 100 other qualities that they never mention.
In other words, if a woman says, "I want a man
who is a good communicator", what she REALLY means
is:
"I want a guy who already has his life together,
is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who
is ALSO a good communicator."
The REALITY is that when a woman says one of
these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually
has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a
good communicator.
She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on
his couch reading a book on communication.
The reality of this situation is that what
women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the
emotional and physical response that I like to
call ATTRACTION.
They want a man who makes them FEEL IT.
But, most women either can't describe the
things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or
they don't WANT to have to describe them, because
they want a man who already IS those things...
without having to learn them.
Think about it.
If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want
one that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just
give me some time to learn..." or would you want
one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime,
anywhere, without having to learn?
Duh.
Well, the same goes with women.
They don't WANT a guy that they have to train.
If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL
FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no
amount of changing and improving things, like your
communication and sensitivity, is going to help
you.
WHAT IS A REAL MAN?
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea
of a "Real Man."
You hear both women and men using the term.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important?
Well, after thinking about this particular
topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion
that it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this "ideal" that women imagine when they're
saying "I want a guy who is sensitive."
They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then
they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive.
There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.
Here are a few that are important:
-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-A Challenge
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN
in a few sentences... but I'll tell you what... a
woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.
Before I tell you more... If you don't know
what a "Real Man" is, and you also get the feeling
that you might NOT be one, then you need to do
yourself a BIG favor and go read this right NOW:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.
THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE
Now, a common mistake that men make is taking
something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and
doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit
is good, then more must be better."
For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys
who are "thoughtful." So you go out and buy her a
bunch of gifts, give her cute cards every time you
see her, and call her all the time to tell her
that you miss her.
What happens?
She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend.
Huh?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "My
favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking
it would be good to feed her chocolate for every
meal just because it's her favorite... or adding
chocolate to every single dish you make for her
from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what
she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS.
Let me land the plane for you.
Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when
they talk about what they want in a man.
And if you take the things women say too
literally, you're going to wind up shooting
yourself in the foot.
WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...
So let me "decode" what women "really" mean
when they say common things.
Consider this your own personal "female
language translator". Refer to it often.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is sensitive."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in
life, who has goals and objectives... who has
passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always
wondering what's going to happen next. He's
challenging, interesting, and funny. I would
really like it if he was also sensitive enough to
know when I need a hug, or to be held, or when I
want him to make love to me."
Does this make sense?
Again, she's not imagining a picture of a
boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his hurt
feelings because he's so "sensitive."
Big difference.
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...
"I want a guy who is in touch with his
feelings."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who
doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy who
can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be
cool when things are tough. But I also want him
to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then
eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a
passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love to
me like a beast!"
What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a
meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to ask "Do
you like me? Because I sure like you".
WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:
"I want a guy who's a good communicator."
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...
"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,
because he knows how to let me know what's on his
mind without using words. I want the kind of guy
that can touch me in a certain way and I feel
tingles all over my body. And I want the kind of
guy that can say things in a way that I
understand... not crudely and man-like."
WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"?
You'll often hear women saying that they what a
"Sexy Man."
Now, I USED to think that they meant that they
wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when they said
this.
Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when
they use the term "sexy." But I've found that,
most of the time, women mean something TOTALLY
different when they use the term "sexy."
You see, a woman generally bases more of her
life around what she FEELS than a man does.
And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to
describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it
is used to describe how HE LOOKS.
Think about women's romance novels for a
moment. Women's romance novels account for about a
fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD.
What do these books contain?
WORDS.
Words that DESCRIBE things.
Descriptions that make women FEEL things.
My point: If you want to learn how to be a
"sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the most
IMPORTANT thing.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man" can
be a very rewarding experience.
A lot of guys out there, including me, know
EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date
with, or in a relationship with a woman who has NO
INTENTION of being with you "physically."
In other words, she's just not feeling that
powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you.
And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a woman
"says" that she wants in a man... that most men
don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES.
If you understand the secrets of being SEXY,
you will notice that women start to behave VERY
differently around you.
For more specific techniques and step-by-step
systems for becoming all of these things that I've
mentioned above, INCLUDING "sexy", then I
recommend that you check out my online eBook, and
my Advanced Dating Techniques program.
My eBook "Double Your Dating" comes with three
no-cost bonus reports. One of these reports is
called "Sex Secrets", and it teaches you how to
take things from one step to the next when it
comes to "getting physical" with a woman. If you
do these things, you will INSTANTLY make a woman
realize and remember that you are a SEXY man. I
absolutely guarantee it.
You can read some great samples, and download
it here right now:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.
If you're ready to take things to the next
level, and you're REALLY SERIOUS about getting
this area of your life handled... and about having
TOTAL POWER AND CONFIDENCE with women in ANY
SITUATION, then you owe it to yourself to check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
It's over 12 full hours of me teaching LIVE... and
it will teach you exactly how to become the REAL
MAN that I've described above... and how to meet
and date the kinds of women you've always wanted.
Audio and video samples are here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.
If you've already gone through my eBook and my
Advanced Dating Techniques program, and you'd like
to get a more intense education on the topic of
using Body Language to create ATTRACTION... then I
highly recommend that you go check out my "Body
Language" DVD program.
This program is 100% dedicated to teaching you
how to use Body Language to attract women... and
keep them attracted.
Go get all the details, plus watch some great
video clips of the program here:
http://www.DoubleYourDates.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. If you want to learn and master EVERY aspect
of attracting and meeting women, then you need to
go and look at my online "catalog" website. There
are many fantastic video clips and other great
stuff there, so go check it out:
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